Point penting about marriage..tentang suami&isteri

Bila diberi sedikit sharing oleh Allah melalui asbab saudara2 seIslam yang mengadu dan bercerita tentang permasalahan rumahtangga yang dihadapi, antara sedikit analisa yang dapat saya buat based on issues come to me ialah :-

Untuk bahagia, suami perlu cari jalan AGAMA (ISLAM of course inshaAllah).....dan perlu bawa seluruh ahli keluarga ke jalan agama dari sekecil-kecil item hinggalah sebesar-besar item. dan, suami je ke kena main peranan? Of course not. sebab MANAGER kat rumah bukan suami, tapi isteri..manager macam kat company ke yang duduk kat kerusi besar tu? Bukan la...ni pengurus, iaitu orang yang menguruskan hal rumahtangga semasa suami keluar cari sesuap nasi ialah isteri. Dia urus makan pakai suami dan anak2, dia yang urus anak gi skolah, dia yang urus kekemasan dan kecantikan rumah, malah sometimes, isteri la pengurus akaun dan kewangan yang paling bijak & sistematik..ini kelebihan yang Allah berikan kepada orang perempuan.Dan ini juga garis panduan yg Allah bagi, iaitu orang laki cari rezeki sementara orang pempuan duk umah jaga keperluan rumahtangga.cuma apabila kita sudah tersasar sikit dari track sebenar, kita tak boleh lari, tapi kena facing the risk. iaitu kita kena tune, walau isteri pun bekerja, tapi urusan rumahtangga tak terabai.

Masalah timbul ialah apabila, 1) Suami ada belajar agama, tapi tak amal. Kalau amal pula, tak bawa anak bini bersame ikut jalan agama. 2) Isteri bekerja dan ada duit sendiri, pride lebih tinggi dari isteri yang tidak bekerja dan bergantung kepada suami. Isteri yang belajar tinggi, kurang taat kepada suami berbanding isteri yang belajar rendah. dan jika isteri ada income sendiri, ada kereta sendiri, boleh bergerak ke mane2 sendiri, dia akan rasa tanpa suami pun dia boleh hiduplah..jadi di sini titik mula nye retak rumahtangga. iaitu bila isteri rasa dia boleh buat keputusan sendiri dan tak perlukan campurtangan seorang lelaki dalam keputusan2 dia. sedangkan Allah pula dah tetapkan, nak keluar rumah pun seorang isteri kena minta izin suami. hmm....nampak kan percanggahan kita dengan Allah.

Kenapa banyak argument dalam rumahtangga? Suami seorang yang ego, atau isteri yang rasa tidak cukup dengan apa yang ada? Pendapat saya yang saya bagi berdasarkan contoh rumahtangga yang sangat bahagia, bukan suaminya baik sangat, suaminya biasa2 je, tapi isterinya SANGAT PENYABAR dan SANGAT PATUH..sangat tidak meminta material dari suami. dan sangat menjaga aib suami. dan sangat juga menjaga maruah diri sendiri. dan mendidik anak2 dengan didikan ISLAM.

Bodohkah atau naif kah seorang isteri macam ni? Bagi saya, tidak. Sebab syurga isteri terletak pada redha suami terhadap dirinya. Jadi conclusion yang dapat saya buat, Rumahtangga yang bahagia, adalah apabila suami berada di jalan agama, dan mempunyai seorang isteri yang sangat cantik(iaitu bidadari dunia). Bukan cantik luaran, tapi cantik dalaman. perempuan macam ni, dalam 10,000 orang, belum tentu dapat jumpa sorang. Sebab dia adalah calon KETUA BIDADARI SYURGA..

Maaf atas penulisan ini yang tidak berniat menyinggung sesiapa. Saya suka share untuk peringatan saya sendiri yang dhaif lagi hina. Semoga sesiapa sahaja yang sudah berumahtangga, bersyukur atas hadiah dari ALLAH, sebab 50% dari agama nya sudah complete, tinggal nak cari 50% je lagi inshaAllah...sayangkan pasangan bukan kerana makhluk (makhluk ni suami,isteri,anak2,rumah,duit,rupa,harta,kereta,dsb) tapi sayanglah pasangan anda kerana ALLAH.Kerana CINTA itu hanyalah milik mutlak ALLAH, dan Dia tak suka didua-duakan dengan makhluk.CINTA MUTLAK ITU MILIK ALLAH..

 

 

American Style sifu!!-Malay version

Ku datang ke Kuala Lumpur dengan doa 'Ya Allah...aku sorang-sorang nanti, berikanlah aku seorang pembimbing.Aku takut dengan ujian di sana.' tanpa ku sedar, memang tempat ku kerja ramai nye kaum Adam. tapi ada sorang bro ni, suka tegur. 'Assalamualaikum ustazah. mesti ustazah pagi-pagi baca Qur'an kan? bagusnya pakai tudung labuh, pakai sarung kaki sarung tangan.'

biasanya pagi2 ku akan tumpang sorang encik yg berdekatan rumah utk ke ofis. tapi harapkan pagar, pagar makan padi. tibe2 je nak pegang tangan orang nak ajak pi tengok wayang. banyak cantek wayang engko. ku sampai ofis terketar-ketar takut. tak tahu nak mengadu kat sape, ku mengadu kat sorang member ofis. nak citer kat mamat pengacau tu tapi segan.

tapi keesokan ari nye dah takde encik yg tumpangkan kete tu.batang idung pun tak nampak. walau dah hampir kena sex harrassement, ku cube bersabar je le..memang masa tu susah ke senang, Allah je tempat bergantung.
nak dijadikan kebetulan, masa tengah berjalan kaki ke tempat kerja kat atas highway, tenampak kete bro yg aku anti tu kat tepi jalan. time kasih ya Allah bagi bantuan. aku tak kira la sape dia asalkan selamat sampai ke tempat kerja.
tapi Alhamdulillah rupenye mamat ni muka je cam penyangak, tp warak& alim rupanya. mulut dia rajin bercerita pasal kisah2 agama. dan dari dia jugak la ku kenal apa itu solat sunat Dhuha, Tahajjud, pose Isnin Khamis, solat awal waktu, Taalim, jemaah Tableegh..

ok..pendek citer, mmg lame2 kenal dia ni banyak membimbing ku la ke arah jalan benar.klu dulu ku datang kl blaja pakai labuh2 tutup aurat, mlalui sifu aku ni, aku blajar mendalami agama, tapi ikut cara sifu aku yg American style ni skit la.

tapi, kejutan setelah hampir 6 tahun kenal sifu ni.. kitorang bincang pasal Umar Al-Khattab.mcamane Umar r.a dari seorang yang jahil dan kejam boleh bertukar alim dan warak setelah menerima Islam sehinggakan syaitan pun taku tmendekatinya..

rupe nye sifu ku ada rahsia dia sendiri jgk. selain penah ukur jalan (mat rempit), dia juga penah jadi tauke edar ganja rupe nye..ms muda2 dulu slalu ulang-alik ke Chow Kit amik stock katanya..klu dulu mewah la duit masyuk je dapat jual barang kan..hah,,aku dengar ni rasa mcm terpana sekejap..betul ke dia ni orang yg aku kenal slama ni? mmg logik sorang jahat boleh jadi alim, tapi biasa nya citer2 drama Melayu boleh la. tapi ni realiti.huhu:(

memang mula-mula dengar tu,rasa tak boleh terima la jugak. ingat muka sifu je ingat pengganas dlm citer Contraband, ingat muka sifu je ingat citer assassin omputeh, siap mimpi sifu aku pegang parang lagi.
tapi lepas muhasabah diri, rasa mcm insap le skejap..Ya Allah, kalau orang gangster mcm dia pun boleh berubah, takkan aku nak jadi orang awam je sampai bila2..jadi Alhamdulillah, Allah bagi sedikit pengajaran ler jugak melalui kisah orang ni.

that woman with face veil thing

Salam alayk..

as of 3rd tarawikh at Masjid Negeri Shah Alam..i've think nothing except pray and pray and pray..
until one moment, a small woman with face veil thing who sat down near a door as i was stepped out from the mosque, i saw her reading Al-Qur'an in the crowded of people..she is so alone..so only focus to Allah

yes, Allah grabbed my heart so that i remember Him..i felt so nerves into entire body..a warmed tears burst out through my eyes..oh Allah..why is that picture make me cry? You touch my heart just by seeing a face veil woman reading Qur'an alone..full of taqwa?

He woke me up at 4.30am this morning, performing Sahur...and Tahajjud, Taubah, Witir...

Oh Allah..
i dont know what to say..
but that picture grabbed my heart ,make me tears a lot..
oh Allah..i want to be pure besides You..

i want to be a good servant of Yours
but sometimes i am too bad because i've crashed the rules all the times
oh Allah guide me to You
because I truly love You Allah..
Thank you Allah for remind me to you
Amin.  :'(

Why Does Allah Test Us?

Niqab: The Face Veil Why Does Allah Test Us?

Question:

We are taught that Allah brought us into existence, placed us on this earth, gave most of us the ability to choose how to spend our lives. We are told that Allah created us to test us, and we will be rewarded or punished as a result. Also we are taught that Allah created us so that we wo...uld worship Him.

Answer:

In the Name of Allah, Most Gracious, Most Merciful

In the Name of Allah, Most Merciful and Compassionate

May Allah bless you for your question. There is no need to worry about causing offense: your question was sincerely posed and politely phrased. It is obligatory to remove one's doubts by acquiring true knowledge, and it would have been blameworthy for you to hold back your question.

"There is nothing like unto Him"

A fundamental tenet of our belief is that Allah is completely dissimilar to everything besides Him. He tells us in the Qur'an, "There is nothing whatsoever like unto Him." (42:11) A consequence of this belief is that unlike human actions, divine actions are not driven by motives, because motives only make sense in the context of someone who is weak and needy.

To clarify this further, consider the following. When humans perform actions, it makes sense to inquire what drove them to do so because, being the indigent beings that they are, they always act to fulfill certain needs. For example, Zayd will put on a coat because the weather is cold and he needs warmth. Aisha will eat food because she is hungry and needs nutrition. Ali will go to university because he needs to earn a living through the degree that he will obtain. As you can see from these examples, the motives that people have behind their actions betray their fundamental neediness.

Allah is the creator of everything and needs nothing. This is easy to state but not so straightforward to comprehend. One of the implications of this absolute freedom from need of anything is that Allah is not driven by motives when He acts. Someone who needs nothing can have no motives. To ask "why" Allah did something makes no sense at all. In the words of the Qur'an, "He is not questioned regarding what He does, but they are questioned."

Allah has no need for our obedience and our disobedience does not harm Him. He does not need to reward us if we obey Him. And had He chosen to, He could have rewarded us for disobeying Him. This is why classical manuals of orthodox Sunni belief teach us that whenever Allah rewards someone, He does so out of His pure generosity; not because He is driven to do so by a need or because we have a right to His reward. The question, "Why?" is inapplicable.

Similarly, Allah does not need to punish us if we disobey Him. And had He chosen to, He could have punished us for obeying Him. This is why the same manuals also teach us that whenever Allah punishes someone, He is not wronging them, for they have no right over Him (recall that our obedience or disobedience does not affect Him). He punishes out of His pure justice. The question, "Why?" is inapplicable.

Qur'anic verses that seem to imply motives

This is the backdrop against which we understand statements that seem to imply that Allah did a certain act for some reason. For example, when the Qur'an tells us that He created us to worship Him, this does not mean that He needed to be worshipped and therefore created us to fulfill this need. Instead, what He is telling us is that he created us with the capability to worship Him by giving us the ability to choose our actions (Hashiyat al-Jamal `ala al-Jalalayn).

Similarly, when Allah tells us that He created us to test us, this does not mean that He needs to test us in order to find out whether we will do good or evil. He already knows what we will do. Rather, our playing out the actions of this life is merely a proof for or against us on the Day of Judgment.

The Practical Upshot

Allah created us and decreed that those of us who choose the actions of the people of Paradise will enter Paradise and those who choose the actions of the people of the Fire will enter the Fire. Because Allah is completely unlike everything else that exists, it does not make sense to ask why He did this. Rather, this is just how things are, and it is up to us to choose where we want to go.

In reality, the entire Sacred Law is a tremendous blessing for us in this life and the next. Obligations that initially seem difficult to fulfill have a polishing effect on the heart until eventually the one's entire perspective changes. Outward submission leads to inward submission and heart fills with love and gratitude for Allah. Obligations are not meant to be hammered out reluctantly; they are meant to be offered in the spirit of heartfelt gratitude to Allah for the myriad blessings that each of us has been given. Someone who is realized in this state will do everything for Allah; "worldly" activities such as eating, drinking, and conversing with friends are all performed with the intention of drawing closer to Allah. Such a person will not worry over possible future problems, nor will he grieve over past difficulties, for he is busy with the One he loves. This is true happiness and anyone who misses out on it will never know the meaning of contentment.

And Allah knows best.